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Denial (psychological) Denial consists of the refusal to accept a past or present reality and is most commonly employed to protect the host from.
How many of us live in denial on a regular basis? Maybe we don’t want to admit that we gained a few pounds even though all of our clothes are tight. We pretend that we don’t mind long cold winters. We go to a restaurant, have a terrible meal, and when the server asks how everything was we say “Fine.” How are you today “Good.”
Inside our hearts are broken, our wallet is drained, our car was missing until 3:00 am. And we still tell everyone that we are ok, nothing is wrong. Our life is moving along just fine.
When we go home, we find the needles, or a burnt spoon, maybe cotton balls with blood on them. Our loved one is in bed and it’s 5:30 in the evening. Maybe they live somewhere else and we don’t talk to them every day, but when we do their speech is slurred, they sound half asleep. We start to hear stories from other people about running into them in public and they look under the weather, maybe they have lost a lot of weight. Or they have camped on our sofa for the past three days.
Then starts the borrowing of money. The loss of jobs or one more in a procession of lost jobs. Utilities are shut off, maybe there’s an eviction. Families start to become broken.
And we could go on and on and on. There are plenty of signs that someone we love is in trouble. We might think they will get over it, it seems to be under control. The “it” being the knowledge that they are using drugs or drinking too much. Maybe we are hoping that this is just a phase of their development. All kids go through this; he/she does this just once in a while or blame it on the company they keep.
We do not want to face addiction. The word scares us, we see the statistics on the TV or in the newspaper. We focus on the number of deaths occurring and don’t pay attention to the hope that sits out there waiting for us. Waiting for us to bring it to the addict.
Most addicts are truly unaware that they are in trouble. Just because you tell them they are, does not make it so. They use again and their troubles are eased. They get mad at you and slam doors, hang up the phone, don’t talk to us.
So we sit and wait in silence. We don’t talk about it with anybody. Not friends, therapists or other family members. We just keep denying there is a problem or keep hoping it will go away on its own.
IT WILL NOT GO AWAY ON ITS OWN.
We have to take the first step. If you are reading this, you are on our website. You have taken the first step. Let us help you. Put together a plan. Help you build a team of people who love the addict in your life. Offer that person the GIFT of life…of recovery. Because it will NOT go away by itself, your addict will not heal themselves. When you are in trouble with drugs or alcohol It is much easier to use over the frustrations of life than to stay sober. You know how to live life high or drunk, but you do not know how to live life sober.
So speak up, call us to drop a line. There is hope. Focus on recovery, rather than negative consequences. Let us help you, so you can help them.